Fellowship: the Secret Weapon

In the 1990's, runaway hit series 'Seinfeld' changed the face of comedy with its unusual style, odd stories, ridiculous personalities and 'about nothing' dynamic. Many television executives referred to the show in interviews as a 'water cooler' show, meaning that people at work the next day would start chatting about it at the water cooler. This was a term that denoted the success of the show.

At any typical Life Group meeting, most of us enjoy the small talk, 'water cooler' conversations and relational dynamics that go on before and after the 'official' content of the evening. This time is spent catching up on life's events and developments, swapping stories about your latest vacations and bantering about work, school, marriage, t.v. or whatever else as you munch on some goodies, or perhaps even dinner.

I think it's safe to say that the best stuff often happens during this time of fellowship, and as a Life Group Leader I think it's just as important for us to be thoughtful and deliberate about it as we are about the rest of the evening! In fact, many people underestimate the value of this 'secret weapon'.

So, what kind of things should be considered when thinking about fellowship?

• Do you meet people at the door as they arrive? This can help them feel more welcome, especially on a first visit.
• Do you go out of your way to make conversation with newcomers? Putting a priority on guests will put them at ease!
• Do you allow sufficient time before group begins for fellowship? We don't 'start' the meeting until 15 or 20 minutes after the 'official' start time, just because we feel it's so important!
• Is the atmosphere in your home or host home warm and inviting? Maybe having some music on, food out, conversation starters ready will help!
• Are you in a frame of mind that is conducive to social interaction? If you just walked in the door yourself, you may need to step out for a few minutes to breathe...

There are many other things that can come into play, but I like to think that simply remembering the purpose of Life Groups can help a great deal; it's about relationships, so don't forget your secret weapon!